Things I Will Teach My Children

I read a blog post by Day Dreaming In Ink which was published on HuffPost Women called 101 Things I Will Teach My Daughter. I liked the idea and thought I would write my own for Grace and then do the same for Seabass. I’m doing it in two parts for each of them.

So, here goes, my part one of two for Grace………

1. Be kind.
2. Being a teenage girl is hard. But I promise I will always try to understand, if you’ll let me.
3. Read lots. Sometimes there’s nothing better than losing yourself in a book.
4. Make sure it’s a book though, not a Kindle.
5. Always buy a new Christmas pair of pyjamas each year. 
6. The fleecier and snugglier, the better.
7. See the world and make lots of friends.
8. Don’t take drugs – you’re too smart for any of that nonsense.
9. Always pick the mismatched outfits that you do now. You make them look cool.
10. Like my sister taught me…………..go charity shopping. 
11. You get so much stuff (most of it unnecessary) for your money.
12. Always love your brother as much as you do now.
13. Laugh until you cry.
14. Don’t spend your life on a diet.
15. Always be polite. Unless some muppet is being rude to you. Then you have my permission to give them an articulate, but strongly worded, reply.
16. Stand up for what you believe in.
17. Make people smile when they’re sad.
18. Be better at handling people when they’re sick than I am.
19. Dance barefoot in parks like you did in the summer of 2014.
20. Try new things (legal.)
21. Don’t be a McDonalds kid. 
22. Hanging around outside there, eating a cheeseburger, definitely isn’t cool.
23. Be with someone who makes you 100% happy.
24. And who treats you 100% right.
25. If you don’t want to go to university, then that’s fine. 
26. If art and music are more important to you than maths and science, that’s fine too. 
27. Just make sure you still put the effort in.
28. Find a record player, get grandad’s records, and listen to them at high volume.
29. If I have to go to the latest boy band concert with you, that’s ok. 
30. But I promise you, you’ll get over it.
31. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not capable of doing something.
32. Some women don’t grow out of b*tching. So don’t be a part of it. You’re better than that.
33. Watch old movies. They used to make black and white ones you know?!
34. Don’t ever let anyone tell you the Rat Pack or Louis Prima weren’t cool!!!
35. Please keep up the family tradition of having Just A Gigolo and Angelina as our songs.
36. Museums, libraries and art galleries rule.
37. Find a bookshop that will wrap your books in brown paper and string.
38. Love hot chocolate.
39. Remember there’s always room for cake.
40. And Greek food.
41. Your Auntie Sophie and your grandad’s Greek lamb is delicious. Learn how to make both.
42. Learn how to make my grandma’s coconut cake. Then make loads and share it with people who are unaware of its amazingness.
43. Wear fairy wings, just because you feel like it.
44. Take pictures of everything, so you never forget anything.
45. Coke Zero is rubbish.
46. Always drink water and wear sunscreen – you’ve got your grandma to thank for that.
47. You can never have too much stationery.
48. Write letters.
49. Buy a typewriter.
50. You are beautiful.

Part two to follow.

Little Superstar

I have been extremely bad recently at keeping the blog updated. Work and life seem to have gotten in the way. But, as was pointed out to me a couple of days ago, I should keep updating because knowing how Seabass is progressing could help people in the future.

Seabass is 14 months now. He is amazing. He’s such a beautiful, happy and smiley baby. He is not yet crawling but other than that he pretty much does what he is meant to. 

We had a Neuro appointment yesterday which went well. Everything seems to be on track. He still sees his paediatrician every 6 months, a physiotherapist every couple of months and also a community based service called Portage who come out every week or so to play with him and see how he is developing. He has a lot of support which is great.

He is a huge flirt. He likes to tilt his head and blow kisses at the ladies whilst shouting “iya” repeatedly. 

He loves to eat. Absolutely anything really. In fact, he can be quite a snobby eater – prefers houmous instead of butter on his sandwiches. Likes olives and focaccia as a snack. It’s great, though sometimes annoying when he ear piercingly screams for food.

Tinker Bell still continues to be amazing with her little bro. She’s a definite mother hen with him. I sometimes feel defunct. She also manages to patronise me quite a lot about what I should and shouldn’t be doing. She definitely thinks there should be some sort of role reversal with me and her. Seabass loves her to bits though so that’s great. 

Tinker Bell is going into Year 2 of school tomorrow which is scary. Time is certainly flying.

Hope you are all ok.

Lots of love.

One Year Blog Anniversary

Can you believe it has been a year since I started this. So much has happened.

Hope everyone is having a good start to 2014. This February has definitely been better than last February!!! 

Seabass is doing well. Eating us out of house and home. He’s rather partial to olives and houmous which is good. He wears clothes aged 9-12 months, and looks like he will soon be ready for the next size up. 

He had a physio appointment today which went well. He still can’t turn over yet but he’s getting there and he is starting to be able to sit on his own. We were told it might take him a little longer to do things because of his cyst etc. I think if I held some food in front of him though he’d probably get up and run to it. 

He has also had a hearing assessment which he passed and Portage have been out to see him. They will assess his overall development. When he gets to 1 they will come weekly, or as often as deemed necessary, and play with him to see how he is developing. Depending on how he develops, they will also help with plans for nursery and school etc.

So everything is going well with the little man.

J and I got married last week. It was very lovely. It was just a small celebration which is what we wanted. I got to eat pie and cake though so that’s good. We had a lovely day and then a nice (but not relaxing in the slightest) honeymoon in Paris. I think we are more tired now than before we went!!

I start back at work on Monday. Not looking forward to it. I’m looking forward to seeing people but not to leaving Seabass. I’m also not looking forward to no longer being able to take/pick Tinkerbell up from school. It’ll be rubbish seeing less of them :-( 

I’m not as worried about leaving Seabass as I was with leaving Tinkerbell when I went back to work after having her. My sister is going to be looking after the little dude, so I feel much better about leaving him with her than I would if I had to leave him at nursery. I’m sure he will have lots of fun with her and Rose.

Well, this was just a quick update as to what’s been happening. Hope you’re all ok. Lots of love xxx

Hospital Updates

So we have had two appointments for Seabass over the last week and both have gone well. 

The paediatrician couldn’t believe how well he was doing, even asking if he had the correct patient’s notes. We don’t need to see the paediatrician for another couple of months. He will keep an eye on Seabass’s development as, although he is doing really well, there are no guarantees as to what his future development will be like. 

We are now on our way back from the neurosurgeon appointment. Again, they were pleased with how he is doing. His head measurements are now just below the top centile whereas before they were above. 

We’re very pleased with how the little man is doing. Little fighting superstar. 

Just goes to show, you should think very long and hard when problems are detected during pregnancy. Don’t necessarily believe the worst. Some babies defy the odds :-) 

New Year, New Me :-)

It’s been a while since I wrote anything, so thought I should check in. 

Seabass is continuing to do well and is still the most beautiful, happy little boy you ever did see. He brings the three of us so much happiness. I know it sounds stupid because he’s only 6 months, but you can tell he loves his family. He gets so excited and smiley when he sees us all. 

He has his two front bottom teeth now and says “dada” – I don’t know if he knows what he’s saying, but I like to pretend he does. 

We had a lovely first Christmas. Tinkerbell spent Christmas Eve with us before going to her dad’s. It was nice having Christmas morning together but it would have been nicer to have the whole day together. 

She still amazes me with how loving she is with Seabass. The novelty of a new baby hasn’t worn off in the slightest. He’s the first person she wants to see when she gets up and when she finishes school. She wants him to be everywhere with her. When we have tea she pulls his chair right next to hers, when she has a bath we have to take him up in his chair to sit with her, when she plays in her room he has to sit in there with her. She calls him “my gorgeous baby boy”. Sometimes it’s like she is the mum. When she comes into our room in the morning, she likes to read him Each Peach Pear Plum. I think we’re all a bit fed up of listening to it, but I still don’t want her to stop. 

I love my little family. 

2013 was a bit rubbish (apart from Seabass arriving safely and Mini Rose arriving too). We’ve had a tough time for various reasons, but I think (without sounding too big headed) we’ve got through it fairly well. We are hoping for a more positive and happy 2014, so if someone up there is listening then it’d be nice if there could be a break from the rubbish stuff for a while. 

Much love.